I wonder if the ambition to pursue a state of happiness and authentic life is all the rage nowadays, or is it my age and stage of life that makes it a priority? Something to ponder…
OK, so I’ve told you have entered the mad mad world of women over 40 who decide to do some crazy exercise event (usually a marathon, but I HATE running), in my case a 200km bike ride. But at least if you are running, all you need is legs and shoes. I have discovered with doing a bike ride, whilst you can do it sitting down, some equipment is required…
I have done 2 training rides and so far I have bought:
- gel padded knickers (and yet to receive them in the mail)
- gel bike seat
Are you seeing a theme here?
I have discovered there is much more to be bought:
- gel padded bike pants (several pairs)
- sports socks (‘cos my husband gets cross at me for wearing his)
- foot strap thingies (apparently makes riding easier)
- drink bottle back pack thingy
- mini super duper bike pump
- little ‘bum’ bag for a bike (not for me) to put phone and coffee money in
I also have the small issue of a bike. I have a gorgeous bike that I call the yellow beauty, from Reid Cycles (can be seen here –Yellow Beauty). I love it. I feel like The Queen riding it. It is not made for a 200km ride! So I have been using my 1 year old son’s mountain bike (also from Reid Cycles) with a gel seat attached. It is a hard slog I tell you. I have been told that I need a road bike, though they aren’t very pretty. I wonder if I could get one with a basket on the front?
My other challenge is that I have to raise $2,500 just to participate, and it would be sad if I did all this training and then could actually do the ride! I have raised $125 (thank you to some very generous friends). Would anyone else like to donate to a very very very worthy cause – Cancer research? If so, click here.
How about a pic to brighten your day?
Wow, I have not blogged for so long! Not because I don’t have anything to say, I have heaps to say. And it is all brilliant, witty and hilarious (of course). But. I. just. have. not. had. time. And if I have had the time, I have not had the energy (and perhaps realised what I wanted to say was not so brilliant, witty or hilarious after all).
There is so much that I want to do, but I don’t have the time or energy. Do you ever feel that way?
My work has also moved into the City, so that has added on a HEAP of travel time that is sucking me dry. I spend about 3 or so hours in the car each day (about 1hr 45mins each way). Oh well, that is the way it is for the moment.
I have a glorious day off today, which I am loving and is giving me pause to catch my breath, so all is good in the world. That and my gorgeous boy turned 13 today. Wow, 2 teenagers in the house.
Happy weekend to you!
The new year has rolled in and I have realised it is 12:30pm and I am still in my dressing gown! Perfect.
We saw in 2014 with good friends, good food and good conversation, whilst making some new friends too. The kids had a great time with people who will be their lifelong friends.
It was as a new year should be…full of joy and great promises for the future. May we see many more like this.
I realised something lovely this morning…Max has not had a tummy ache since he fund out he wasn’t stupid.
Every morning before school Max would complain of a stomach ache. Every morning. And of course he felt he couldn’t go to school. I did all sorts of things to try and help him. I tried changing his diet (not too successfully though). I put him on a probiotic. I tried to take dairy out of his diet. Nothing made a difference, and really, it was all a bit of hard work.
This morning I realised that since we found out he was dyslexic and dyscalculic he has not had morning stomach aches.
Isn’t that wonderful?
Every 6 months or so I find myself lamenting over time. I don’t mean lamenting for a period of time, I mean being amazed by how fast time is going, how I don’t have enough time, and if I do I don’t enough energy. I don’t have enough time to do everything I want, and even then I really just want to lie on the couch and do nothing (whilst still complaining about not having any time).
So that time has come around again (boom tish). And like everyone, I am stunned, astounded, amazed, and baffled about how FAST time has gone. Not only this year…and this year has flown! But also as I look at a photo beside my bed of the boys when they were little, how fast the last few years have gone!
So let’s talk about this year first. 2013. Nearly 2014. Can you believe it? Whilst winter felt like it dragged on, it really has gone by with the click on the fingers. We are now planning for Christmas, trying to squeeze in end of year school events, and work Christmas parties. This seems to be taking up all the time for the things I would really like to do: spend time with family and friends, and a bit of quiet time reflecting on the year that was, the year to come and being grateful for all that we have. Sorry, no time for that!
So, now that I am stunned at how fast this year has gone, how about the last few years?? I cannot even begin to express how I feel (actually I can!) about having 2 boys in secondary school next year, and I think my little Arch must have bruises from me trying to grip him as hard as I can to keep him little.
I don’t feel like this all the time. Usually I am very happy to move forward, and while I loved it when the boys were little, I really try and take some joy in their current age, whatever that may be (except for when they are being shitty – then you can have them). But it has just hit me. My son is much taller than I am, and he is no longer allowed to get dressed in front of the heater (for everyone’s sake!), and before I know it they will be planning their life.
So what can I do to slow down time? Not much. Take deep breaths. I know that I am usually in a hurry to move forward, so I am making an effort at home and at work, when people want to talk to me, I stop, push my key board away, and focus on the person. Just because you can multi task, it doesn’t mean that you should.
I am making a real effort to spend time, even if it is just a sliver, on the things I really want to do, be it writing, sewing, photography, or some other such thing.
A girlfriend gave me a bit of advice at my wedding (which her Mum gave her), which was,don’t drink too much and stop every 15 minutes and just think back so you can savour and remember everything. It is a great piece of advice, which I ignored, had a few drinks, and forgot to do my bridal waltz! So I will try and apply that advice now…
I don’t know if any if this will slow down time, but it might help!
Some pics of our life lately…
Today is Sunday, and I have spent the day doing something that I have put off for the last few weeks. *ahem*, OK. For the last few months…putting away all the clean clothes that sit in basket in the middle of our living area. I think it is appropriate that they are in the middle of the living area, because it makes it so much more convenient to get pour clothes each morning. Friends talk about their ‘floordrobe’. Well, this is our ‘basket-drobe’, though floordrobe sounds better!
It feels so great to have this all done. For a moment I am one of those people. You know the people. The ones that are organised with a clean house and they never have to apologise for it. Are you one of those people? But sadly it is short lived. I have a load of washing in the dryer, and another in the washing machine…
Getting these clothes put away led me to cleaning out my wardrobe, which made me learn a few things about myself.
- I have many pairs of pyjamas. None of which I actually bought for myself. They have all been gifts. No more pj’s please. And I still wear an old t-shirt to bed!
- I must have the largest collection of Diesel jeans known to man (& woman). I have bought all these online because Diesel jeans from a retailer are ridiculously expensive. Of the approx. 7 pairs of Diesel jeans, I would say that 1 pair fits me. And they are the ones I wear on a daily basis.
- The collection of Diesel jeans is followed closely by my collection of white t-shirts. And yes, every single one has a stain that renders it useless for wearing in public.
- I have also ended up with a big pile of clothes to go to the Salvos. Most of those came from the Salvos to begin with, and the rest were hand my downs from my sister. I like to reduce, reuse and recycle!
After weeks of struggling every morning to find clothes to wear to work, I was being reduced to wearing the same thing every day. I now know that I have heaps of clothes, and I actually know where they all are.
My fear is that in the morning I still won’t be able to work out what to wear to work, because I have too much choice!
What are you doing with your Sunday?
….Come on summer, start already…
You know, sometimes those annoying motivational and spiritual quotes strike a chord! Which I guess is what they are meant to do….
Anyway, two have really resonated with me this week, and I thought I would share them just in case they hit the right note with you too.
Ok, here they are….
Life does not need to be perfect to be wonderful
Talk about your blessings more than you talk about your burdens
I read the first quote on a blog by an American woman whose son suffered a brain injury rendering him incapacitated and something happened to her husband that made him go blind! I can’t remember the blog, but if I come across it again I will share it.
I also learnt something today. This morning I spoke at a morning tea at my children’s school about the path we have gone down in discovering our Max’s dyslexia and dyscalculia and the journey that this is taking us on. It reinforced to me that so many people are just desperate for help and advice about their children, and dyslexia in particular. Australia is so far behind the rest of the world in this space. Autism and Asperger’s are the condition’s that everyone knows about and gets the funding, and I feel that is to the detriment of dyslexia and other related learning disabilities (that’s just my opinion, so if you disagree, that’s fine, but I don’t really want to hear about it ba ha ha ha ha).
Anyway, that is my gem for today.
What a week! The company I work for is merging with another company, with the leaders from the second company coming in to run our company (a takeover of sorts – if that makes sense at all). A part of this is that I have been in a strategy planning meeting for the last 2 days with managers from each organisation planning a way forward. Going down this path has raised so many thoughts and questions, particularly since I don’t know if I will have a role in this new entity. And then begs the question, do I even want a role in this new entity?
I have been going on this journey for the last couple of months, and it has created so many situations and interesting (& bizarre) scenarios that I would love to blog about, but just can’t until things at work are formalised and finalised. But in six weeks’ time, look out for my rants and insights about the world of merging companies and the effect on the people involved!
So what am I doing in the meantime whilst I am in limbo?
Pondering priorities – what is really important in this one life that we get?
Feeling grateful – for my good health and the health of the people who I love.
Looking at all my options – is this an opportunity to following my passions, or make a change that provides better balance? Are there other options available that I haven’t considered?
Deep breathing – whenever I start to freak out at the instability of it all, I take deep breaths!! Many of them.
Enjoying time with family and friends!
Monday starts a new week and who knows what it will bring. Until then it is the WEEKEND! Woo hoo….Enjoy…..
^^^a bit of sunshine joy^^^
In my last blog I prattled on about how great I felt that I had found my children’s passions. And I still do feel pretty good about that.
But what about our passion as adults?
I was talking with a girl friend who wants to make some sort of change in her life (& income earning ability). I asked her what her passion was, and she didn’t know.
Many of us don’t know what our passion is, but I think that deep down we all have passions. This is over and above the passion that we have for our family of course.
I have many passions. I have core passions that are always there. These are writing, photography, and creative pursuits. Then I have fluctuating passions that come and depending upon which stage of my life I am in. At the moment, I am passionate about researching dyslexia and dyscalculia and promoting research and knowledge in the areas that can effect and help us in our pursuit of ensuring Max will have the same educational and career opportunities as anyone else.
But lately, I have been led to explore my passions further. At a time of increasing and inevitable instability with my job as we go through a merger, I am exploring my passions further and trying to identify income earning opportunities with them.
I was inspired that other night talking with a talented artist friend (check out her blog here). Several years ago, when our kids were little, she said “I want to illustrate books”. Though she was already a skilled artist and qualified art teacher, she went and did an Illustration course through TAFE that took several years. And guess what? She is now illustrating books as a career. This is her job, and she is busy with it, and she is loving it!
She followed her passion.
So, coming back to working out what your passion is. Do you have a passion? Is it something you do full time, when you have time, or you just dream about doing?
If you have trouble working out what your passion is, ask yourself this question….if you had a day to yourself with no other commitments and heaps of energy, what would you choose to do with your day?
I picture myself in a space of my own, working on editing photos, writing articles, blogs or whatever, with a painting I am working on sitting on an easel, and perhaps working on education projects for teachers shaped around dyslexia and dyscalculia where I can use my current career based skills, knowledge and abilities and huge HECS investment.
What about you? What would you do with a day to yourself? Would you cook, write, visit friends, do charity work, take a meal to a sick friend or neighbour, play on the computer, renovate your house, work in the garden, plan family activities, spend time with your animals, do crosswords and sudoku puzzles, read books about science, research medical break throughs….what would you do?
When you really answer this question, you are on the path to finding your passion…
Oh, as a side note, I am now a mother of a 14 year old…scary!!
And yes Mum, I checked my spelling. If there are errors, consider them to be typos. x